Thursday. This day was named in honor of Thor, the God of Thunder. Even in Latin languages the name comes from the God of Thunder, which for the Romans was Jupiter (Jueves, GiovedΓ¬, Jeudi). If you ever saw a picture of the God of Thunder, for sure you noticed that he was a bit angry (or furious). And that’s how I feel today.
Emotional crap is paralyzing me. I feel stuck and it seems that I can’t catch up, let along moving on.

But before going further with my fury, I want to thank Katarina from cath22may.wordpress.com for nominating me for the award “Very Inspiring Blogger”. THANK YOU!!
I’m completely flattered. I accept this nomination and as you already know, I’ll break the rules. Because a prize shouldn’t have a price.


Venting now.
A couple of days ago, I happened to read a message that someone wrote. It was a comment about what men really want. I’m not pasting the entire message because it’s RUDE and GROSS. But most of all, it broke my heart. I will instead write a part of it (and I’ll use the tablet that the man brought here by mistake and I’m not giving back because I love it).


After reading that, dozens of thoughts crossed my mind. Is it true that men think that way? Do they all see us like a piece of meat? Are women after having children really that unwanted? I have 5 kids, the only tight thing I have is the budget.

Where is the love? Where are the important things in life? Where are the good men?

Now imagine that the person who tells you that it’s someone you care about.
I know that some assholes say those things. The man once told me: “Do you think that somebody will want you with 5 kids?”. He destroyed me but I didn’t give him the pleasure of showing him any emotion. I just said that someone who LOVES me, will want me. Of course, after hearing that, I spent hours crying silently.
Because maybe there is a truth behind those words. And I’m really sorry if men think that way about me, that I’m not “tight” enough. They are missing for sure the best part of me, and trust me, that part is pretty LOOSE.

Comments like that HURT. Maybe if I were 19 and tight I wouldn’t be so emotional about it. But I’m 42, with 5 kids… And I delivered them naturally. So if you have that information about me, and come to me, and say a comment like that, don’t expect me to smile or be your friend. And if you see me breaking after you said those words and I ask: “How could you say something like that knowing what you know?” and then you add: “But you still got great tits”… How the hell should I feel about it?


What a good picture to illustrate this post!


~ by DotedOn on November 20, 2014.

27 Responses to “85”

  1. Reblogged this on Survivors Blog Here.


  2. There are good guys out there, we just tend to overlook them because they aren’t Channing Tatum either. Or we don’t trust because of some bozo like the guy you had and the so called friend. I took my man “meandcoffeefairy” through several rings and roller coasters before after 12 years I finally married him. Believe me, he always knew and I never trusted. He persisted and I am very happily married to him now. We did not waste those years, but I wasted trust. I hope you are able to find your “ONE” it is worth all you have been through to get there! Huge HUG!


    • Hi Wife πŸ™‚ (I love calling you that way πŸ™‚ )
      Thank you so much for your kind words!! It’s hard for me to trust someone and when I finally do it, I get terribly disappointed. (But as you can see, I keep doing it, I NEED my happy ending and I won’t settle for less than that πŸ™‚ )
      Huge HUG to you too! ❀


  3. 😦


  4. I’ve learned that anytime anyone says something that is absolute in scope, I turn them off. “It’s all about the….”. Who is he to say it’s all about anything?


    • πŸ™‚ Thank you for your comment Rob!
      You are very kind… I’m not sure what’s all about πŸ™‚

      That comment hurt me, and I don’t think I (or anyone else) deserved it πŸ™‚


  5. Your only response should be: “Yeah, I’ve got 5 kids for ever and ever–how GREAT is that!!” β™₯

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  6. I always read your post but this time I just had to comment!!

    What an a*****e!! Please excuse my language but we don’t all think like that.


  7. I think if anyone says that to you again, you should take out your Thor hammer and put a knockin’ on that noggin and knock some sense into them. A REAL man looks at woman’s soul, her heart, her bright mind and the tightness he craves is her hug when he awakens in the morning and when he comes home in the evening. A REAL man wants to hold tight to his woman and share his life with her. Admiration of physical attributes only is a fool’s game. And that game never ends well. Find a man that loves YOU and he will love ALL of you and your wonderful children.

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  8. Enthusiastic Twin P
    Congrats on the award, you are deserving of so much more. You are brave to talking about the women hating comments. You’ve been writing the same style of blog for a long time without such comments. If someone feels the need to talk like that to anyone, they are not worth the energy. This person has their own issues. Delete the comment and write it off to their ignorance. The comments were filled with hatred.
    Treat yourself to a hot bath and nice glass of wine.
    Don’t let this good to your heart.
    Twin M


  9. This comment is late and I am with you on this. But the entire nature of this debate troubles me, in the sense that there is too much side taking. Aaargh. Forget it. I will have to post about this. πŸ™‚ People cannot tell us who we are; only we can do that.

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    • Thank you for your comment Atul!! You can’t imagine how much the “tight” comment hurt me. There are some things that people should keep for themselves. I can’t believe the person who said that really could think that way. I had to write about it and hope for some comments because sometimes, I wonder if it’s me the emotional one or if the other person is just wrong πŸ™‚

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  10. That is disgusting. Most men don’t talk, or think like this. Assholes talk like this. Its not worth lowering yourself to their level :]

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  11. I finally sat down to read your blog my friend, and an interesting one at that.
    First and foremost, congrats on continually writing and sharing your heart and soul to your readers. And especially a nomination for an award of which you are deserving of.
    The topic of your blog interests me because as a woman, (I am 55, and damn proud of it), in society, can say that my experiences have been interesting. The men that I encounter don’t have a notion on how tight I am or will be. They just want to have an experience. And let me tell you my age is not an issue. The men are in their 30’s and 40’s. I guess there are some that will ruin it for many, but I wouldn’t allow that to tarnish my thoughts on all men.
    Continue to remind yourself how beautiful you are and never,
    and I mean never take anything personally. T

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