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Sunday and sunny! I can’t believe it. Thank you Kim for the sunshine!
I guess I’ll be removing the bad weeds as soon as I finish breakfast. I could even mow the front yard. I could it doesn’t mean I will.
A few weeks ago I mentioned the man calling his girlfriend “not girlfriend”, because according him, she doesn’t enter the category of woman that he will ever marry. So for him, she’s only a friend.
I’m fine with that but I would prefer if he calls her girlfriend in front of my kids so they don’t get any more strange ideas about relationships. I think they are already confused in that area.
So I decided to research the dating categories and write about it.

I’m not familiar anymore with the dating scene and dating codes. In the past years new terms of relationships (at least for me) appeared in daily life.
I remember before you had the categories: Friend and Boy/Girl-friend, where you had friendship in the first category and a more intimate relationship in the second one.
Then one day I heard the term “Amigovios” in Spanish, which could be the equivalent to: “Friends with Benefits”.
That’s a category that really puzzles me. I’m too old fashioned, I guess.
Let’s supposed that one day you decide to cross the friendship barrier and sleep (I hate to use that verb in reference to sex) anyway, let’s continue with the (not actually)sleeping with your friend.
I wonder if the friendship is ruined after the sex?
I wonder if one of the two agreed on something like that because new feelings started growing in them and just had the hope to ‘conquer’ the other one.

I don’t know how to explain it. I have a few really good male friends. The kind of friends that if I think in something intimate happening, it’d be incestuous.
I understand much better the other new category to me called “F#$cking Buddies”.
Why my old fashioned mind can understand better this other category? I don’t know. Maybe because I value friendship very much. Or is it because of the secrets I share with those male friends? I really don’t know. I can only tell that if you entered my house being “my friend” I don’t think I’ll be showing you the bedroom. And if I do it, it’s because some feelings grew in me. And if it’s that way, then my friend, we’ll have to talk and if things are reciprocal, then you’ll have an upgrade and become my boyfriend. There is no way you are getting any benefits from me.
And if you my friend are the one growing feelings for me and I’m not… shit then, I wouldn’t know how to handle that. I would hate to lose your friendship. I’d hate to see your eyes full of love and not being able to correspond that love.

Not corresponded love and timing are two subjects that make my stomach hurt. They are mostly associated with heartbreaks. I have SO many stories to tell about those subjects and they can all be told in first person. If I keep blogging, I guess you’ll know them sooner or later.

While I was searching “dating categories” in order to write this post, I came across a few things quite unexpected for me… Mostly the search gave me the “dating categories” that you can choose from the online dating sites. I had kept the tabs open on my browser to show them to you, but I guess that they reloaded a couple of times so what I wanted to show, it’s not longer there.
Anyway, I’m nobody to judge but I have to admit that one of the top dating categories (or things people choose) made me raise my eyebrows. I totally understand that some people like: “Transgender”, “Fetish”, “Sugar Daddy” or “Cougar”… But who could choose the category “Criminal”?

And I’m worried about not getting my heart broken… Some things are not good in this world.

~ by DotedOn on May 24, 2015.