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Thursday. I think that this is the second time since I write this blog that I didn’t like what I wrote and ended up deleting everything.
A few days ago I read an article saying that men suffer more than women after a break up. I always suspected that.
There are a few theories about why that could be but I’m not going to talk about them now.

What I can tell you is that women suffer a lot too but the recovery process is for sure different and maybe that’s why women can move on more easily than men. Of course, that’s not always the case.

My suspicions started many many many years ago when I was in my early 20’s and after my boyfriend at the time left me.
I had my group of friends so my recovery was faster than the speed of light. The girls and all the women in my family, decided that NO MEN deserved the tear of a woman. So they gave me a kind of make-over and dragged me out the door. Things like: “He didn’t like you wearing skirts?? Go ahead and wear this one, is the shortest I have for you”. “What?? He didn’t want you to wear make up? Close your eyes, let me add more shadow”.
That’s what girls do. At least my friends. They won’t let you get down. They’ll dress you up and introduce you to all the males they know until you move on.

Now imagine how it is for a guy. The girlfriend just dumped him. He won’t tell his friends until a few days later. He won’t cry because men don’t cry. When he finally tells the guys, the guys will say something like: “What a bitch!” and that would probably be it. His support system, if any, is not providing what he needs to move on. The guys won’t drag him to the hairdresser and give him a make-over and they won’t tell him to change his style. He’ll be stuck. Every single thing will remember him of her. Because maybe, she was the one.
Now you are wondering why, if she was the one, she left him.
Let me see…
He didn’t cheat on her.
She didn’t find another one.
The reason was because he didn’t want to commit. At least, that was the reason that maybe 10 male friends told me the past 25 years. So I needed to know more and started asking questions like:
-Did she just leave or she warned you before?
She warned me.
-And did you care about her?
More than you can imagine.
-Do you regret not committing?
Yes.
-Do you still think of her?
Every single day.

Men, you are unbelievable!! You need to get all your shit together soon or you’ll never be happy. Because quotes like these will appear in front of your eyes and you’ll feel like crap.

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If you want to read the article I meant above, you can find it here.

~ by DotedOn on October 15, 2015.