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Tuesday. No mug shot, no inspiration.
My grandma should be operated this evening if things are right.
Valentine’s Day is coming. I just saw an articles about: “Valentine’s Day for Singles”. I didn’t bother reading it. I still didn’t see anything for couples. I felt kind of sick. It’s hard to explain. I know there are a lot of people who choose to be single but I know there a lot who hate being single or who are in a relationship and wish they were not.
Stupid Valentine’s Day. When you are not loved or in love, or when your beloved one isn’t with you, it’s painful. It’s not just another day. It’s the chosen day to celebrate love. It’s probably the day when people who hate being single will frown the most.
I don’t know where I’m going with this. I’m just mad at “the news” and whoever writes them. For rubbing in my face that I’ll be alone on Valentine’s Day and trying to be nice offering me things to do without my beloved one. Ughh.
I guess that being pissed off is better than being sad. Or maybe it’s just one of the stages of grief.
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DotedOn said this on January 26, 2016 at 11:32 am |
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Maria said this on January 26, 2016 at 1:10 pm |
Thank you, Maria β€
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DotedOn said this on January 27, 2016 at 11:23 am |
I hope that the surgery goes well, Paola.
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The V-Pub said this on January 26, 2016 at 2:11 pm |
Thank you, Rob π
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DotedOn said this on January 27, 2016 at 11:23 am |
π hope all goes wellx
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XandrewX said this on January 26, 2016 at 2:15 pm |
Thank you, Andrew π
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DotedOn said this on January 27, 2016 at 11:23 am |
I’ll say a little prayer for your grandmother, Paola. Bone breaks in the elderly are not an easy thing π¦
And as far as Valentine’s Day—only when I was young did I think of it as a “love” holiday. Whether I was married, not, with a man or without, I find it the opposite of romantic. Regardless of the holiday, to me anything that’s forced or expected is not romantic or as meaningful as the everyday “unexpected” shows of affection or gifts π
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writersideup said this on January 26, 2016 at 4:36 pm |
Thank you, Donna!
My problem was more like this: “I’m not expecting you to show you love me EVERY DAY. It’s only once a year, you can make the effort!!”. π
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DotedOn said this on January 27, 2016 at 11:30 am |
ah, but we should deserve to be shown love, if not EVERYday, then most days and it shouldn’t be forced π
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writersideup said this on January 27, 2016 at 7:26 pm
Exactly Donna! I always felt like if I was asking for something extreme. I just wanted to hear: “I love you” and every time I got a reaction like if I were asking for all his blood and one kidney π
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DotedOn said this on January 28, 2016 at 2:16 pm
Pride perhaps, selfishness, who knows? But it’s a miserable life that way. I know when my son was born, I couldn’t help but show him affection and saying “I love you,” even through his teenage “embarrassed” years, was never going to stop. He was going to be comfortable with the words and expressing those feelings if I had any influence over it. Through the years, my doing that has actually influenced my family, including my parents, who were not in the habit of “saying” the words other than in cards or whatever. They always showed it and it was never doubted, but the language itself wasn’t a natural part of daily life. I helped change that, even if they never recognized it. I’m glad! And my son is wonderfully affectionate because I believe it’s in his nature, but as his mother, I was conscious of making sure any “macho” tendencies didn’t ruin that π
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writersideup said this on January 28, 2016 at 5:37 pm |
Those “macho” tendencies really ruined my relationship and I really hope my kids can be reeducated in that area π
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DotedOn said this on January 30, 2016 at 11:55 am
When I was single I hated Valentine’s Day because it makes people who are single feel left out. I still hate it for that very reason.
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Marissa Bergen said this on January 26, 2016 at 5:37 pm |
Yeah, it’s not fun. π
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DotedOn said this on January 27, 2016 at 11:31 am |
I love Valentine’s, whether I’m single or not. I think of it as a Love holiday, and I celebrate all my loved ones, not just the romantic ones. But every holiday is a trigger for someone – birthdays are hard on those of us who have poor health, Christmas is hard for those who have no family, New Year’s is a challenge for people who are depresssed or suicidal. I just look for the angle that I can celebrate in my own way.
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Jay said this on January 27, 2016 at 2:11 am |
I believe that every holiday is a trigger for me for some reason or another π
Valentine’s Day pisses me off now but maybe next year I’ll love it (I hope so!!!) π
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DotedOn said this on January 27, 2016 at 11:36 am |
Valentine’s Day… a made-up holiday to get people to spend lots of money on things they should be focusing on throughout the year. It’s probably better to be single on that day, you get to save your money, don’t have to buy an “outfit” that you will wear once, or feel the pressure that there is some mysterious bar you have to make sure you rise too or else… yep, probably better. And besides, you can buy your own chocolate (and get what you really want).
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R. Todd said this on January 27, 2016 at 5:39 pm |
R.Todd, don’t know if you read my comment, but we seem to be of similar mind π
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writersideup said this on January 27, 2016 at 7:22 pm |
I did not, but I believe I shall have to now. GMTA.
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R. Todd said this on January 27, 2016 at 8:21 pm
Outfit?? Is that so there? I always expected an “I Love You” and if a there was also a little chocolate, I was already in heaven π
(Maybe I’m too simple :))
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DotedOn said this on January 28, 2016 at 2:13 pm |
Well, the outfit in question is more the kind where you pay a whole lot for so very little. And is usually (hey, it’s the 21st century) worn by the female in the relationship.
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R. Todd said this on January 28, 2016 at 5:29 pm
Ohhhh… I understand now π
But why wear it only once?
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DotedOn said this on January 30, 2016 at 11:54 am
I don’t know, just seems to be a holiday thing. You were it that night, then the next holiday you buy another one. /shrug Just another point to add to the argument about it being all about the money.
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R. Todd said this on January 30, 2016 at 4:57 pm
Come one, if you bought it, you MUST use it!! As much as you can, right? π
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DotedOn said this on February 1, 2016 at 12:46 pm
One (especially me) would hope.
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R. Todd said this on February 1, 2016 at 4:00 pm
π I understand
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DotedOn said this on February 1, 2016 at 7:22 pm