Tuesday. You know I don’t talk about politics or religion because in those areas, nobody is right or wrong. But I have a few questions: When you choose to belong to a political party or religion, do you agree 100% with everything in it? If so, I truly admire you (still, I’m not sure I can believe you).
I believe in people regardless of their color, belief, nationality or education. I also do not believe in people regardless of their color, belief, nationality or education.
I could go on and on for hours trying to explain what I’m talking about but I better write a few examples and hopefully, you get the idea.

I don’t like hypocrisy. I don’t like when people tell you what you have to do and they are not following their own examples.
And what pisses me off even more if when someone belonging to one group (race, religion, sect, cult or whatever) messes up and immediately for the rest of the people everyone belonging to that group: THEY ARE ALL BAD.

How wonderful it’ll be if we can just say: “(insert name here) is a mother f#$ker” without adding anything else?

We all f#$kep up at least once, right?
I wouldn’t like if after I mess up something, everyone who comes from the same place I’m from is guilty because ONCE someone coming from the same place messed things up.

Are you still with me?
Can you generalize and say that ALL (insert nationality, belief, political inclination, race, cult, sect, music genre, sport team or whatever comes to your mind), are actually ALL THE SAME, exactly the same? No, you can’t. Because we are all different so we shouldn’t be judged according to anything else but ourselves.

The same way, can you say that everyone coming from a place or having the same beliefs is GOOD? No, you cannot. For exactly the same reason. We are all different.
And who decides which one is better? Nobody. For you, maybe your beliefs are “better” than mine but did you ever stop to think that maybe for me my beliefs are “better” than yours? It seems so simple but it looks like not many had that thought yet…

-Are skinny women prettier than fat women? It depends on who you ask.

-Is blue prettier than brown? Hell yes! But I’ll like you anyway if you say NO because I respect that your opinion is different than mine. And I REALLY REALLY REALLY like you even MORE if you defend your opinion without trying to make me change my mind.
And you have no idea HOW MUCH I’ll like you if you don’t bend and change your mind just to please me.

-Who’s more productive, a morning person or a night person? Again, can you really give an answer?

Not all that glitters is gold.

And I truly like this one because of the person who said it to me, a maid. “Remember that in the garbage you can also find a silver spoon”.


~ by DotedOn on October 25, 2016.

34 Responses to “791”

  1. I’m crushed. I always wanted blue eyes and now I find that blue really is prettier than brown.

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    • Please, don’t tell me I hurt you! If I did, it wasn’t my intention. I’m sorry πŸ™‚
      I have a problem with the color brown (also with beige). I should have stuck with: “it depends on who you ask” but I thought that writing that I totally respect the other person if they liked brown more, was enough πŸ™‚
      In MY opinion, blue is prettier than brown (that’s better, right? ) πŸ™‚

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      • well, hardly! I am pulling your leg. I am not offended in any way. I am sorry if I led you to think I was serious. A very nice write DotedOn. I enjoyed it very much, rushing out to get blue contacts :)(

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      • I’m smiling πŸ™‚
        I come from an abusive relationship where everything I said was bad or wrong and I was always the guilty one. The idea of hurting someone scares me to death πŸ™‚
        And you have red hair, you should go for green contacts! πŸ˜€
        I always wanted to have red hair. I colored it once. I looked like a sea buoy but I LOVED it πŸ˜€
        I’m glad you enjoyed this post. And I’m Paola, nice to meet you πŸ™‚

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      • Same here Paola, keep writing the great stuff!

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      • πŸ™‚ Thank you! I’ll do my best!

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  2. Paola, I wrote a response on the other blog post and it disappeared, but I’ll write a different one here.

    There are so many things that feed the way each individual thinks, feels or believes and, in that respect, we need to accept those things as long as it’s not harming other people. Of course, when it comes to Christian Bible teachings and prophecy, anyone who’s familiar with any of it, even if it’s not completely understood, knows that if we ignore the teachings and prophecy it states, very clearly, that we could be hurting ourselves and others in the long run as far as our destiny on Judgement Day—-rising either to everlasting life (here on earth) or judgement in which that possibility is in jeopardy. That’s where the JWs are coming from as far as wanting people to understand exactly what they are sacrificing.

    Most people are raised in a religion and follow its traditions and basic beliefs (even if not 100%) simply because it’s easier to go with the flow or because they’re satisfied with it enough not to look further or change things as far as their practices and beliefs. Others are willing to look further to figure out what makes sense, and others simply ignore all of it. Like anything else, we all have choices to make.

    As far as what’s right and wrong, though everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs and to live their lives as they see fit (as long as it doesn’t hurt other people) because we all have free will, I do believe there does exist a “right and wrong” with some things (e.g., murder is wrong) just as I believe there is a “true and false” with some things, too.

    In the realm of belief systems, there are 3 basic possibilities as to what is true or false:

    — there is one God
    — there are many gods
    — there is no God

    Many people argue that truth is what is true for each individual. I will never agree with that because, regardless of what we believe as individuals, there can only be ONE actual truth and it can only be ONE of those three. All three cannot be ACTUALLY true or factual simultaneously—they can only exist as simultaneously as possibilities. It is our own personal perspectives that lead us to what we, as individuals, see as far as which one of those three WE believe is true or false and we live our lives accordingly as far as what we each believe as right and wrong. It is our free will that allows us to choose one of those three. It will always be our choice and it is that choice that ultimately determines each person’s life path and where that leads us in the end in respect to what is actually the one truth.

    In my life, I was raised as a Roman Catholic. When I was old enough to see many discrepancies and things that didn’t make sense, it was around that time I became aware (by “chance” seeing passages underlined in a stranger’s Bible) of things I was never taught were in the Bible (and I went to Catholic school for 6 years). I couldn’t ignore these things so I chose to look further. I wanted to understand what was true and though I’ve learned so much, I will never stop seeking to understand it as completely as I can. That’s my choice. It is definitely not everyone’s.

    As far as who’s more productive—a morning or night person? Well, from experience, I’ve been a night owl most of my life, and I’m always busy and doing things regardless of what hours I’m awake, BUT I can state, from my own personal experience/observation—when I actually go to bed early and wake up early, my life is undeniably better and more productive on all levels. Am I able to make it a habit as I KNOW I should? That’s another story! lol

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    • Thank you for your comment, Donna! And I’m sorry the other one got lost πŸ™‚
      Exactly as you said it, it was your choice to know more or try to understand more. I think it’s like that for everyone who’s interested (otherwise, they go with the flow) πŸ™‚
      So far, I think I’m fine. I’m pleased with what I know and if I ever want to know more, I’ll look for more answers.

      About the productivity… I’m so sleepy in the mornings that I can only manage to prepare some tea and a sandwich πŸ™‚ It doesn’t matter much if I go to bed early or late. It’s like my inner clock wakes up at noon πŸ˜€

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      • You know, it’ s funny with the body clock. It takes a lot for my body to want to go to bed early. It takes a long time for that adjustment and I have most definitely NOT been good with that for quite a while. One thing that’s been happening for me, though, because I’ve been dealing with medication problems, is that because I now have finally been told that I need to separate the meds from each other and from vitamins and minerals, in order to make it all work, I’ve been setting my alarm for 6am, then 8am, then 10am. After several weeks, even if I go to bed at 2am (which has been most nights 😦 ), I am now automatically waking up at 6!

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      • That sucks, Donna!
        Interrupted sleep drives me crazy, I bet is not good for you either! I hope you can sleep longer (because going to bed earlier doesn’t sound like an easy thing to do πŸ™‚ )

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      • Thanks, Paola πŸ™‚ It really is hard for me. Changing any kind of life-long habits are difficult, right? But I still want an “early to bed, early to rise” lifestyle to be mine πŸ™‚

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      • I hope you get it! πŸ™‚

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  3. I agree that there are many grey areas and that some things aren’t necessarily right or wrong. I agree with you regarding the items you list. However, as Hartoffire touched on, my acceptance of others opinions stops when it comes to hurting other individuals. I am an example. I am a gay man and who and what I am is not up for debate. Not everyone has to agree that to be true, but once they put limits on my freedoms, then they are absolutely wrong and I refuse to see otherwise. I should be able to marry who I please, and should be able work a job without fear of being fired just because of who I love, and so on.

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    • Hurting others is NEVER acceptable. Nobody should judge anybody for being different or put limits on anyone’s freedom.
      This may never happen but how nice it would be that everyone respected everyone and if someone is not happy with someone else, they should just keep it for themselves instead of spreading rumors πŸ™‚

      I’m not gay but I’m a minority where I am. I know what it is to be discriminated. I know what is to be put in the same bag.

      My heart hurts when there is no effort to understand the other person. πŸ™‚
      And it’s hard to believe that someone doesn’t like you, Bradley! πŸ™‚

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  4. You handle this complex subject matter rather well. I love your philosophy.

    Taking the time to consider if the other point is better than yours is an invaluable asset. I also like your closing quote about the silver spoon. Being open-minded is an incredible quality to have.

    One of the best questions I like to ask, which can apply to religion/politics/philosophy, is: Who Benefits? Even though the answer may be complicated, the process of asking the question is always illuminating.

    I really enjoyed this post, Paola. While you may seem to talk about yourself, you actually talk about everyone’s (with more than this individual post) experience. Guiding us towards introspection is a noble and brave way to use your platform. Not everything on the Internet is hollow, insipid, or vapid. This ‘editorial’ is proof. Your blog combats those mentioned negative notions rather well. Keep fighting and sharing your provocative opinions. I love being provoked to think. Thanks!

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    • Thank you, Dan! You made me smile πŸ™‚
      I have no idea who benefits, probably no one πŸ™‚
      Next time I get frustrated about something, I’ll try to ask myself “who benefits?”. I think the answer will make me move on faster πŸ™‚

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      • Hehehe I hope so. It may be controversial to apply Who Benefits to religion, but the answers may be surprising to some, especially if you weigh the multiple layers. Same with politics and some promises made there πŸ˜‰

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      • It’s perfect to apply to religion when the discussion has no end! πŸ™‚
        And in politics and the promises made, we all know who benefits πŸ˜€
        But discussing about what party is better… Pff… who benefits?? πŸ˜€

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      • With politics, it’s too bad the obvious answer isn’t always: Us (the Nation). With religion, unfortunately it’s too bad some factions take advantage of their position to manipulate and exploit (ie: in history). I’m usually pretty goofy myself, but I love intelligent conversation as well. Your post totally sparks a discussion. I hope your community appreciates it as much as this one nerd πŸ˜‰

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      • I hope it too! It’s nice when other people appreciate your “work” πŸ™‚
        Writing is my therapy. I have nobody to talk about here and if I go to my kids with this kind of subject, they’ll finally put me in a straight jacket. They already suspect “something is odd about mom”.
        I don’t want them to be sure yet πŸ˜€

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      • Hahahaha. Too funny. Well, this site is a great outlet. In today’s world, this counts as talking right πŸ˜‰ Also, so awesome you let your kids decide what to think (guiding them rather than forcing them). More parents should follow your lead!

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      • πŸ™‚ That’s because I’m stubborn and I want to believe what I want to believe. Imagine if I teach my kids otherwise? For sure it’d be easier to have little soldiers obeying what I say, but would I really like that?

        I have to admit that sometimes I suck at being the example. I’m the messier, the one with the dirtiest mouth and of course, the one who keeps playing on the iPod while we have dinner. But I always say: “Don’t follow my example now or you’ll end up like me”… That’s a pretty scary thought πŸ˜€

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      • Hahahaah. You have a way with self deprecating comedy. But you did a couple things right… I can tell by how you talk about your kids.

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      • πŸ˜€ I hope I did a couple of things right! I’ll need those to defend myself in a future!
        Thank you, Dan! πŸ™‚

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  5. Great post, Paola!

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  6. β€œRemember that in the garbage you can also find a silver spoon”………. Paola I’ll remember this quote πŸ™‚

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  7. Politics totally confound me right now. Drives me crazy.

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  8. People should be more opinionated. Far too many try to please others. Its not worth it. People should be themselves, and if others don’t like it, tough. xxx

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